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deathofthekid:

lierdumoa:

deathofthekid:

"but this character can’t be gay because they had a canon hetero relationship/crush!!!!!"

allow me to introduce you to two very interesting concepts

bisexuality and pansexuality

Those are actually the same concept.

Pansexuality is a way of repackaging bisexuality to appease biphobic monosexuals, who tried to delegitimize bisexuality by claiming that “bisexuals are transphobic/binarist/backwards” while hypocritically leaving lesbians or gays exempt from such accusations.

The official definition for bisexuality is “being attracted to both people of your own gender, and people not of your gender.”

Saying that bisexuality is a different kind of sexuality from pansexuality just further perpetuates the myth that bisexuality/bisexuals are binarist and erases the long history of genderqueer and trans people who themselves identified as bisexuals and who were institutionalized for their sexualities.

Wow. Just, wow. Are we really going to have this discussion?

While pansexuality and bisexuality are very similar, I identified as pansexual for years and I have friends who identify as pan and you’re completely wrong.

Bisexuality does not have to mean attraction to two binary genders. And even if it did, trans people still fall into the gender binary. So the argument that pansexuality makes bisexuals look transphobic doesn’t even apply.

At the end of the day, if someone wants to call themselves bi or pan, don’t try to tell them that they’re wrong about their sexuality or that all pansexuals should just call themselves bi. A person’s sexual identity is personal to them and if they feel better using the word pansexual rather than bisexual you have no right to tell them that they’re wrong. Regardless of if the person is trans, non-binary, or cis. If they want to refer to themselves as pan or bi they’re allowed to because only they can know what sexual identity they feel closer to.

You have misread my comment. Please go back and read it again.

1) I was not my intention to imply that I thought transgender people were non-binary. They are binary. I am well aware of this.

What I said was: *biphobic monosexuals accused bisexuals of being non-binarist and transphobic as a way of delegitimizing bisexuality”

To clarify: In the past, biphobic monosexuals tried to deligitimize bisexuality by claiming that bisexuals were transphobic, even though it was they themselves who were actually being transphobic by making such claims in the first place. In the past biphobic monosexuals tried to deligitimize bisexuality by claiming that bisexuality was binarist. They were wrong, and they did not understand what bisexuality actually means.

This actually happened, in the history of the queer movement. People actually said these things. I am relating historical facts about bi-exclusion in the queer community.

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2) Bisexuals invented the word pansexual because the word bisexual had become so heavily stigmatized, so steeped in negative cultural stereotypes, that bisexuals no longer wanted to be associated with it.

Pansexuals today have bisexuals to thank for that term even existing in the first place.

Again. These are historical facts. This is the etymology of the word pansexual.

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3) Words have histories and those histories are important because they carry with them stereotypes and stigmas that haunt bi/pansexuals to this day.

You say that bisexual and pansexual have “similar” definitions. Okay, so what’s the difference, then?

The difference is history and stigma. The term bisexual has been stereotyped and stigmatized ad nauseam for decades. The term pansexual has not, partially because it has not been around as long, and partially because the dominant culture remains largely unaware of its use.

You cannot pretend that the words “bisexual” and “pansexual” exist in a cultural vacuum. You cannot ignore the fact that biphobia in the queer community is the entire reason we have so many terms that all seem to mean almost exactly the same thing in the first place.

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4) Understand that, if you call yourself pansexual that is your identity, your preference, your decision.

Why not say, “they mostly mean the same thing; I just prefer to define myself using this term.”

Why are you going out of your way to insist that the two terms represent completely separate and distinct identities, even though you yourself can’t come up with any clear distinction between the two terms?

I’ll tell you why. Because the term bisexual is heavily stigmatized. 

And the thing is, it’s perfectly alright to not want to associate yourself with stigmatized language. Not every word needs to be reclaimed.

But there is a big difference between saying, “I don’t like to use this term to define myself” and saying “I’m not anything like those people who use this term to define themselves.”

Because even today people constantly misinterpret bisexuality as binarist, and pansexuality as “more inclusive.” When you make a point of always listing pansexuality and bisexuality as completely separate identities, rather than as to sides of the same coin you encouraging those preconceptions — there is no such thing, linguistically or socially speaking, as “separate but equal.”

You are also speaking over the people who use the two terms interchangeably, because when you refer to “pansexuals” and “bisexuals” you’re not referring to yourself and your own identity. You’re referring to communities. You’re refusing to acknowledge the overlap that exists, and the many people use the two terms interchangeably. You are erasing the perspective of the many people who consider us one community with your divisive language, and that is ABSOLUTELY, UNQUESTIONABLY BIPHOBIC.

myintrovertedmind:

« The Real Africa : Fight The Stereotype » by Thiri Mariah Boucher

Fun fact: Africans certainly don’t all live in the desert, but Africa’s Sahara desert is so big you can fit the entire continental US inside of it.

Something most Americans don’t know because we were taught geography on racist, misleading Mercator world maps (which make Africa look disproportionately small and unimportant), all through childhood.

deathofthekid:

"but this character can’t be gay because they had a canon hetero relationship/crush!!!!!"

allow me to introduce you to two very interesting concepts

bisexuality and pansexuality

Those are actually the same concept.

Pansexuality is a way of repackaging bisexuality to appease biphobic monosexuals, who tried to delegitimize bisexuality by claiming that “bisexuals are transphobic/binarist/backwards” while hypocritically leaving lesbians or gays exempt from such accusations.

The official definition for bisexuality is “being attracted to both people of your own gender, and people not of your gender.”

Saying that bisexuality is a different kind of sexuality from pansexuality just further perpetuates the myth that bisexuality/bisexuals are binarist and erases the long history of genderqueer and trans people who themselves identified as bisexuals and who were institutionalized for their sexualities.

samjohnssonvt:

scifigrl47:

lacalacabby:

electronic-neko:

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frelledbyfate:

deducecanoe:

dontbearuiner:

ooh-shiny-things:

winneganfake:

lacalacabby:

Can we make a petition for Oded Fehr to be cast as Doctor Strange? Is it possible because it needs to be done.

FUCKING HELL YES. 

give this to me now.

Josh and I have been saying this for months.

I accept this and wish for it to be so. It will probably be a pasty white dude tho.

In many ways it is like he was born to play this part. 

How did I never see that before? This must happen!

Oh, please, please,
please let me have Oded Fehr in a Marvel movie to admire. I would watch the hell out of that movie for no other reason, he was my first movie crush.

New Twitter Trend: #OdedFehrForStrange. Let’s make it happen.

Yes.  All the yes.  PLEASE.

give it to meeeeeeeee

To all the Tumblr users who tend to use tags very liberally:

laughingfish:


thejadedkiwano
:

Let’s play a game.

Type the following words into your tags box, then post the first automatic tag that comes up.

you

also

what

when

why

how

look

because

never

#YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW HIM

#but also

#……….what the fUCK DID I JUST SEE????

#when fandoms collide

#WHY IS DONNA HATING ON CASSIE?

#HOW DID I LIVE BEFORE THIS PICTURE

#LOOK! A THRONE FOR OUR PARENTS!!!

#I’m crying now because of this. OH GOD :(

#never ‘this woman that I played…’

you’re ruining my life

also I kind of want this outfit

what a GQMF

Except when it does

Why can’t I stop looking?

HOW DO YOU ART?

look at all the fucks I don’t give

because I can

never ask any member of the cast if they know what knotting is

Okay so I feel better about the world knowing that magazines like Forbes and Wired are denouncing the rape apologia happening in Game of Thrones. It’s not just niche feminist periodicals denouncing this shitshow — even popular magazines whose main demographic are affluent white men think the scene and the men who wrote it are despicable.

This week has just been really emotionally draining.

I mean between the TW racism apologia at Bitecon and GoT and losing my housekeys and my rapidly approaching university finals —  what was supposed to be a relaxing weekend bootycall ended with me crying for an hour in front of my boyfriend over how horrible the world is (and getting even further behind on homework).

I can’t believe it’s only Tuesday. This week needs to be over.

fatpinkcast:

Critics’ Reactions to the Jaime/Cersei Rape Scene in Episode 4.3 of Game of Thrones

"I wonder, then, if the rape was on some level a misguided attempt to give Cersei even more pathos, a la the convenient backstory rapes that have become depressingly common on prestige TV (and Scandal)…I wonder if TV Thrones‘s writers just have a tendency to change problematic book sex scenes into clear scenes of unconsensual sex.” - Hillary Busis, Entertainment Weekly


“Game of Thrones has a rape problem.” - Kevin Spak, Newser


"In the original depiction, Jaime never says “Why have the Gods made me love a hateful woman?” — a line that the TV show added in, which in context makes Jaime look like an abusive rapist (the gods made me do it!)”- Darren Franich, Entertainment Weekly


Jaime forced himself upon Cersei despite her demands to stop. “It’s not right,” she cried, to which Jaime snarled, “I don’t care.”…we can never unsee that godawful scene. - Leanne Aguilera, E! Online


"If this scene really just is a miscalculation in direction (and potentially the writing of Benioff and Weiss, neither of whom have yet commented on it) and doesn’t get any payoff later in the season, then it truly deserves all the criticism it has been receiving.” - Terri Schwartz, Zap2It


The director who shot the scene and the man who acted in it both believe it wasn’t necessarily nonconsensual sex— an attitude that isn’t totally surprising in a society that’s deeply confused about what constitutes consent, and that doesn’t always recognize sexual violence for what it is. -Tara Culp-Ressler, ThinkProgress


So then Jaime … well … no other way to put this, really. He rapes his sister beside their corpse of their murdered son. This is the same guy who protected Brienne from a similar fate last year.  - James Hibberd, Entertainment Weekly


"…the show’s overall treatment of women as disposable objects onto whom physical and emotional violence are relentlessly enacted. Sexual violence is so pervasive on the show that nearly every woman on the show has been raped or threatened with rape. The show, and the books, reveal the disturbing and cavalier facility with which rape becomes a narrative device.Rape is used to punish. Rape is used to make a woman more sympathetic or to explicate their anger or other unlikable qualities. Rape is used to put women in their place.” -Roxane Gay, Salon


"The entire scene in the sept was an exercise in Cersei’s belittlement. She watched her father degrade and dishonor (albeit truthfully) her firstborn’s legacy and then manipulate her youngest into serving as his marionette. Then, on the floor next to the body of her dead son, the only man she’s ever taken into her confidence abused that trust in the most vile way imaginable.” - Hillary Kelly, The New Republic


"A giggling dead body would have at least taken our attention away from, you know, the raping." - Johnny Brayson, wetpaint


"Whether the show meant it to come across that way or not, what we saw was a rape.” - Erik Kain, Forbes


"The scene, which has Cersei pleading “stop it” repeatedly and struggling against Jaime, appears far from consensual." - Margaret Wappler, Los Angeles Times


In the show there’s no other way to interpret it as unambiguous rape. Jaimie isn’t loving when he tries to have sex with her in the show, he’s shown as being angry and hateful, cursing her for being a wicked woman. There’s no point in the scene on the show that we can see Cersei consent, which makes the whole scene significantly different from the book. Some readers have pointed out that the rape in the show is damaging for Cersei’s character arc since she had to endure the marriage to Robert Baratheon in which he essentially engaged in marital rape,  Her consensual sex was always with Jaimie who made her feel safe. Jaimie raping her in the show completely destroys their relationship and destroys the trust she has in Jaimie leaving her without anyone. - AJ, the Digital Times


The rewritten scene also takes away all of Cersei’s agency. In the original text, Cersei chooses to have sex with Jaime, grotesque as it and the setting may be — because she wants to, or because she uses sex to manipulate, it doesn’t matter. Cersei has power and control. The scene in the show deprives her of all of that. - Amelia McDonell-Parry, The Frisky


His response is not to stop loving her, not to stop believing that he is victim to the gods. Instead, Jaime rapes his sister, passing that sense of unendurable pain on to her. He must know that this is the worst possible way that he could hurt her. Jaime knew that Robert raped Cersei, and in the novels, he wanted to kill Robert for it. Not only does raping Cersei remind his sister of her repeated, humiliating violation, Jaime is poisoning their own relationship, the thing that had been Cersei’s antidote to the miseries of her marriage. It is an exceptionally cruel thing for Jaime to do.  - Alyssa Rosenberg, Washington Post.


It’s hard to shake the idea that Game Of Thrones, the show, doesn’t see a problem with pushing a scene from complicated, consensual sex to outright rape. It would be easier to accept that idea if it were clear what the show was trying to do with those changes. - Sonia Saraiya, AV Club


If Graves intended to depict consensual sex in the end, he completely failed. This wasn’t even one of those terribly clichéd scenes where a man starts raping a woman only to find that she comes around to thinking it’s hot. Cersei is still kicking and protesting when the camera cuts away. It’s as straightforward a rape scene as you’ll get on TV, unless you buy the ridiculous myth that a woman can’t be raped if she’s consented to sex with a man before. - Amanda Marcotte, Slate


This isn’t the first rape scene in Game of Thrones—far from it. And there’s been controversy over the show’s use of rape before. But what makes this scene the most upsetting one yet is that the director didn’t realize he was filming a rape scene…Whether or not the creators intended this to be a rape scene is irrelevant; they made one anyway. And worse, they made one that encourages the most dangerous thinking about rape imaginable. - Laura Hudson, Wired


"How will victims of sexual assault be affected when a director and actor in one of television’s most popular shows questions whether no really means no?" - Eliana Dockterman, Time Magazine


I’ll go ahead and say it: Jaime Lannister has become a rape cliché. He’s the boss, like every other on-screen rapist we’ve ever seen. - Hayley Krischer, Salon


"I’m not opposed to shows depicting sexual violence, but rape-as-prop is always distressing…Rape and abuse have consequences for the victims who carry those traumas with them. While I don’t know exactly how the show will depict the aftermath of Jamie raping Cersei, GoT does not have a strong track record of acknowledging or exploring the lingering effects of surviving sexual assault." - Margarey Lyons, Vulture/New York Magazine


"I can’t think of any comparable defense for the rape scene in "Breaker of Chains," which feels like a naked and ill-conceived attempt to push Game of Thrones into even darker territory. …I’m concerned that Game of Thrones has made a mistake it can’t take back — and one that sets a troubling precedent for the show’s future.” - Scott Meslow, The Week


The Game of Thrones Rape Scene Was Unnecessary and Despicable….The fact that showrunners might be asking us to overlook this for the sake of character development is downright insulting and says a lot about how we treat victims, especially the ones who come off as unlikable. - Madeleine Davies, Jezebel.com


Is “Game of Thrones” Obsessed With Sexual Assault?…Frankly, there are some weeks when “Game of Thrones” doesn’t seem worth the effort.  - Sam Adams, IndieWire

fatpinkcast:

Critics’ Reactions to the Jaime/Cersei Rape Scene in Episode 4.3 of Game of Thrones

"I wonder, then, if the rape was on some level a misguided attempt to give Cersei even more pathos, a la the convenient backstory rapes that have become depressingly common on prestige TV (and Scandal)…I wonder if TV Thrones‘s writers just have a tendency to change problematic book sex scenes into clear scenes of unconsensual sex.” - Hillary Busis, Entertainment Weekly

Game of Thrones has a rape problem.” Kevin Spak, Newser

"In the original depiction, Jaime never says “Why have the Gods made me love a hateful woman?” — a line that the TV show added in, which in context makes Jaime look like an abusive rapist (the gods made me do it!)”- Darren Franich, Entertainment Weekly

Jaime forced himself upon Cersei despite her demands to stop. “It’s not right,” she cried, to which Jaime snarled, “I don’t care.”…we can never unsee that godawful scene. Leanne Aguilera, E! Online

"If this scene really just is a miscalculation in direction (and potentially the writing of Benioff and Weiss, neither of whom have yet commented on it) and doesn’t get any payoff later in the season, then it truly deserves all the criticism it has been receiving.” - Terri Schwartz, Zap2It

The director who shot the scene and the man who acted in it both believe it wasn’t necessarily nonconsensual sex— an attitude that isn’t totally surprising in a society that’s deeply confused about what constitutes consent, and that doesn’t always recognize sexual violence for what it is. -Tara Culp-Ressler, ThinkProgress

So then Jaime … well … no other way to put this, really. He rapes his sister beside their corpse of their murdered son. This is the same guy who protected Brienne from a similar fate last year.  - James Hibberd, Entertainment Weekly

"…the show’s overall treatment of women as disposable objects onto whom physical and emotional violence are relentlessly enacted. Sexual violence is so pervasive on the show that nearly every woman on the show has been raped or threatened with rape. The show, and the books, reveal the disturbing and cavalier facility with which rape becomes a narrative device.Rape is used to punish. Rape is used to make a woman more sympathetic or to explicate their anger or other unlikable qualities. Rape is used to put women in their place.” -Roxane Gay, Salon

"The entire scene in the sept was an exercise in Cersei’s belittlement. She watched her father degrade and dishonor (albeit truthfully) her firstborn’s legacy and then manipulate her youngest into serving as his marionette. Then, on the floor next to the body of her dead son, the only man she’s ever taken into her confidence abused that trust in the most vile way imaginable.” - Hillary Kelly, The New Republic

"A giggling dead body would have at least taken our attention away from, you know, the raping." - Johnny Brayson, wetpaint

"Whether the show meant it to come across that way or not, what we saw was a rape.” - Erik Kain, Forbes

"The scene, which has Cersei pleading “stop it” repeatedly and struggling against Jaime, appears far from consensual." - Margaret Wappler, Los Angeles Times

In the show there’s no other way to interpret it as unambiguous rape. Jaimie isn’t loving when he tries to have sex with her in the show, he’s shown as being angry and hateful, cursing her for being a wicked woman. There’s no point in the scene on the show that we can see Cersei consent, which makes the whole scene significantly different from the book. Some readers have pointed out that the rape in the show is damaging for Cersei’s character arc since she had to endure the marriage to Robert Baratheon in which he essentially engaged in marital rape,  Her consensual sex was always with Jaimie who made her feel safe. Jaimie raping her in the show completely destroys their relationship and destroys the trust she has in Jaimie leaving her without anyone. - AJ, the Digital Times

The rewritten scene also takes away all of Cersei’s agency. In the original text, Cersei chooses to have sex with Jaime, grotesque as it and the setting may be — because she wants to, or because she uses sex to manipulate, it doesn’t matter. Cersei has power and control. The scene in the show deprives her of all of that. - Amelia McDonell-Parry, The Frisky

His response is not to stop loving her, not to stop believing that he is victim to the gods. Instead, Jaime rapes his sister, passing that sense of unendurable pain on to her. He must know that this is the worst possible way that he could hurt her. Jaime knew that Robert raped Cersei, and in the novels, he wanted to kill Robert for it. Not only does raping Cersei remind his sister of her repeated, humiliating violation, Jaime is poisoning their own relationship, the thing that had been Cersei’s antidote to the miseries of her marriage. It is an exceptionally cruel thing for Jaime to do.  - Alyssa Rosenberg, Washington Post.

It’s hard to shake the idea that Game Of Thrones, the show, doesn’t see a problem with pushing a scene from complicated, consensual sex to outright rape. It would be easier to accept that idea if it were clear what the show was trying to do with those changes. - Sonia Saraiya, AV Club

If Graves intended to depict consensual sex in the end, he completely failed. This wasn’t even one of those terribly clichéd scenes where a man starts raping a woman only to find that she comes around to thinking it’s hot. Cersei is still kicking and protesting when the camera cuts away. It’s as straightforward a rape scene as you’ll get on TV, unless you buy the ridiculous myth that a woman can’t be raped if she’s consented to sex with a man before. - Amanda Marcotte, Slate

This isn’t the first rape scene in Game of Thrones—far from it. And there’s been controversy over the show’s use of rape before. But what makes this scene the most upsetting one yet is that the director didn’t realize he was filming a rape scene…Whether or not the creators intended this to be a rape scene is irrelevant; they made one anyway. And worse, they made one that encourages the most dangerous thinking about rape imaginable. - Laura Hudson, Wired

"How will victims of sexual assault be affected when a director and actor in one of television’s most popular shows questions whether no really means no?" - Eliana Dockterman, Time Magazine

I’ll go ahead and say it: Jaime Lannister has become a rape cliché. He’s the boss, like every other on-screen rapist we’ve ever seen. - Hayley Krischer, Salon

"I’m not opposed to shows depicting sexual violence, but rape-as-prop is always distressing…Rape and abuse have consequences for the victims who carry those traumas with them. While I don’t know exactly how the show will depict the aftermath of Jamie raping Cersei, GoT does not have a strong track record of acknowledging or exploring the lingering effects of surviving sexual assault." - Margarey Lyons, Vulture/New York Magazine

"I can’t think of any comparable defense for the rape scene in "Breaker of Chains," which feels like a naked and ill-conceived attempt to push Game of Thrones into even darker territory. …I’m concerned that Game of Thrones has made a mistake it can’t take back — and one that sets a troubling precedent for the show’s future.” - Scott Meslow, The Week

The Game of Thrones Rape Scene Was Unnecessary and Despicable….The fact that showrunners might be asking us to overlook this for the sake of character development is downright insulting and says a lot about how we treat victims, especially the ones who come off as unlikable. - Madeleine Davies, Jezebel.com

Is “Game of Thrones” Obsessed With Sexual Assault?…Frankly, there are some weeks when “Game of Thrones” doesn’t seem worth the effort.  - Sam Adams, IndieWire